I need advice... I have been dating a guy and have been intimate and growing into what I thought was a really promising relationship. But then - in the middle of a romantic getaway weekend - he springs on me that he doesn't feel the same way about me that I feel about him. He says that he has been really trying to have those same feeling for me because he knows that I am genuinely falling in love with him, but he just isn't falling in love with me no matter how hard he tries

He loves being with me and doing things with me and wants to keep seeing me, but he just thought I should know that he doesn't feel that way about me. Ouch! And we're no spring chickens - I'm 41, he's 47. What should I do? A. I have a rule and I tell women to live by it - when a man tells you something, believe him. This man has told you he doesn't have romantic feelings for you. He says he wants to keep seeing you, but he really doesn't. He's just being polite.

I'm still baffled by why he would pick a romantic weekend to break this news to you, but that's besides the point. This guy may want to keep having sex with you, but he doesn't to be romantically involved with you for whatever reason. His reasons are not important. What's important is that you believe what this guy is telling you and get out of the relationship. You're not going to be able to change him or change his mind. You can't try to make someone fall in love with you.

It just doesn't happen like that. Part ways with this guy ASAP so that you can find a great guy who will love you! If he doesn't help you and problem persists or gets worse, you should head for couples counseling to see if this relationship can be saved